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 CONFIDENCE AS A TOOL

A healthy confidence can help you reach any goal you set for yourself. But it is not enough. Besides confidence, you also need to increase your competence. These are two interconnected aspects of succeeding at something. Either if it’s a sport, a job or a relationship, you need to develop both confidence in your own abilities and competence for you to stand out in that specific field. The good news is that improving competence in a certain area of your life (let’s say you want to become a better dancer, or you want to be the best baseball player in the team, or you want to impress a girl you like) leads to increased levels of confidence. Setting higher goals, practicing daily and pushing your personal limits towards achieving that goal can have a boosting effect on your self confidence.

 

No one is perfect. This applies to every living person on this planet. There isn’t a secret key on how to be confident and successful in every life aspect. There are, though, several ways to build your confidence. You are required to invest a lot of will power and to work harder and harder each day, but the result is worth it. Of course, every person is different and we don’t have the same goals. That’s why the following steps were designed in a general way, as helping tools for climbing upwards on your confidence scale.

 

The first and most important step in constructing a strong confidence is identifying your strengths. Find the thing or things you enjoy doing and at which you are good at and follow them through, all the way. Improve or excel your passions and stand out with them proudly. Either if you like chess or you like to compose music or write computer code, if you practice it and expand your knowledge about it, you will become the best. This is an excellent way of putting yourself in a positive light. Others will notice your rising and will perceive you more positively as well. Finding and following your passion is not only the best therapy for your heart and mind, but it has the potential of making you feel accomplished.

 Levels of Confidence

Another essential measure in conquering the desired level of confidence is acknowledging your weaknesses. Write down whatever aspects about you that you consider negative, then prioritize them, starting with the ones you think are the most important. In that way, you will have a list of insecurities, flaws, or any other aspects of your personality you consider improvable (for example, if you think of yourself as a shy person, or if you think you’re too fat/skinny, or if you think you’re not attractive enough, write it down). Don’t think of this list as a giant burden you carry with you, but think of it as a ladder towards success. Because it really is. Each day, take an item on the list and start finding ways of turning it around in your favor. For example, if you feel your job is not right for you, start planning on moving towards something you love doing, even if it’s not possible to make that change right away. This way, not only you will have some new task or challenge to complete each day, but after consistently upgrading yourself, it will make you feel like something worth doing, and you’ll see that it’s an uplifting feeling.

 

 

Another aspect of boosting your confidence level is related to your body. Believe it or not, your own body is one of the most obvious ways of displaying your confidence to others. Everything from your body posture, gestures, facial expression, the way you dress or the way you look matters. When interacting with people, especially for the first time, every element from your body transmits something about you. If you want that the person you meet to form a good opinion about you from the start, your body needs to display confidence. For example, when meeting someone new, a simple handshake or eye contact can make a significant difference. A weak handshake or a look in the ground does not transmit a healthy confidence to the other person. Take time to identify and write down every element which you think it would use a transformation. For example, if you think or if you’ve been told that the way you dress is somehow not representative of you, take with you a friend or relative who knows you best, and ask them to help you pick new and more suitable clothes. It’s not impossible to turn things around. Every little detail matters. Make sure you take a shower and that you brush your teeth every day, and also that you get at least 6 hours of sleep. Taking care of your body should be something built into your daily routine.

 Raise your confidence levels

One of the most noticeable ways to rise your confidence levels is to start working out. It’s been proven. Physical activity rises endorphin levels in your body and will make you feel great. Find time for exercising and create a daily routine out of it. Hold on to that routine and slowly increase the difficulty of the exercises. You will find a lot of useful working out programs online, choose the most appropriate for you, print it and start using it. You will notice amazing benefits both for your body and mind, and you will be ready and confident to take on any life challenge.

 

 

Negativity can be a drag, especially if you let it found its way into your way of thinking. It is a critical mission for someone who wants to feel and look confident to remove every source of negativity, pessimism or unhealthy thinking. It is not an easy job, but it’s not impossible either, end even though you might not be capable of replacing all the negative sources from your life with something beneficial, at least working on improving the most bothering ones will be very rewarding. A few examples of negativity sources could be represented by a boss who’s always unhappy no matter how much you work, or by unsupportive friends who ditch you whenever you need some help, or by your own negative thoughts about yourself and the world. No matter how difficult to overcome a situation or crisis, always keep in mind that there must be a solution, you only need to find it. Cut loose all the problem-creating-persons from your life, get a new job, find new friends, move out, take a walk every time black clouds of bad thoughts tend to cover your mind. Knowing that there’s a clear sky behind any life difficulty and getting through every problem with a smile on your face will make you shine with optimism and confidence.

Another essential measure in conquering the desired level of confidence is acknowledging your weaknesses. Write down whatever aspects about you that you consider negative, then prioritize them, starting with the ones you think are the most important. In that way, you will have a list of insecurities, flaws, or any other aspects of your personality you consider improvable (for example, if you think of yourself as a shy person, or if you think you’re too fat/skinny, or if you think you’re not attractive enough, write it down). Don’t think of this list as a giant burden you carry with you, but think of it as a ladder towards success. Because it really is. Each day, take an item on the list and start finding ways of turning it around in your favor. For example, if you feel your job is not right for you, start planning on moving towards something you love doing, even if it’s not possible to make that change right away. This way, not only you will have some new task or challenge to complete each day, but after consistently upgrading yourself, it will make you feel like something worth doing, and you’ll see that it’s an uplifting feeling.

 

 

Another aspect of boosting your confidence level is related to your body. Believe it or not, your own body is one of the most obvious ways of displaying your confidence to others. Everything from your body posture, gestures, facial expression, the way you dress or the way you look matters. When interacting with people, especially for the first time, every element from your body transmits something about you. If you want that the person you meet to form a good opinion about you from the start, your body needs to display confidence. For example, when meeting someone new, a simple handshake or eye contact can make a significant difference. A weak handshake or a look in the ground does not transmit a healthy confidence to the other person. Take time to identify and write down every element which you think it would use a transformation. For example, if you think or if you’ve been told that the way you dress is somehow not representative of you, take with you a friend or relative who knows you best, and ask them to help you pick new and more suitable clothes. It’s not impossible to turn things around. Every little detail matters. Make sure you take a shower and that you brush your teeth every day, and also that you get at least 6 hours of sleep. Taking care of your body should be something built into your daily routine.